So, perhaps it wasn’t exactly our “first” date, but it was our first “official” date. Perhaps I’ll explain at a later time. As I’m sure I’ve mentioned before, I was crazy about Jed the first day I met him. It just never really worked out between us because either I was dating someone or he was. So, one crazy December day, I was asked, last minute, to give a speech to a bunch of anthropologists and geologists about some of the new equipment we had in our lab, as well as student opportunities blah blah blah. This talk was to be given across campus, far away from my part of the CSULB world. As fate would have it, that same day, at that same exact time, Jed was also on CSULB’s campus judging a debate tournament. Jed and I hadn’t seen eachother for six or so months since I had quit speech and debate that year, but as I was walking to my talk, I quite literally bump into Jed. I was a bit early, so we talked for a while. I asked how he was doing, and slyly, how his girlfriend was. He explained that they had broken up about 4-5 months previous, and I expressed my condolences. I feel like such a bad person, in retrospect, but I was a little happy because I too had become single around the same time and finally here we were. Single at the same time. He gave me his card and told me to give him a call so we could hang out.
Here’s where our stories diverge a little bit. I thought he said to call him that night so we could catch a movie, while he claims he said to call him so we could catch a movie (“sometime”- being implied). Either way, later that night, very excitedly I call him up, from a pay phone at Ralph’s because my phone had just run out of batteries. Turns out he was eating at In N Out with his debate team in Northridge. So no movie. I was disappointed, but he promised to call and set something up later. Later turned out to be the next evening. We finally scheduled for him to come down to Long Beach that Thursday and I’d take him around the area. We never called it a date.
He came right on time to my dorm. He looked very dapper. I actually had butterflies. It had been a while since I had those. The first place we go to is the Viper Room on 4th st. I know a bartender there and we hang out for a little bit. It’s too crowded so after I get hit on by a girl while standing in line for the restroom, we take off for our next destination. Some might judge, but my favorite bar in Long Beach is the “Silver Fox”. It’s a 40 and over gay bar. Well, truth be told, most people are under 40, but I digress. This bar plays the best music, has the cheapest, but strongest drinks, and a girl doesn’t have to worry about being eyed by a bunch of greasy guys while still maintaining the advantage of getting free drinks because “you’re so diva girl!” Anyway, I wanted to see Jed’s reaction when I took him there, but he was very cool. I think he figured that there was less competition there anyway. We played a trivia game on those bar game things where you put a quarter in the machine and you get to play one of a variety of different games. I think it was a pop trivia or something, but Jed decided that we needed some higher stakes to play the game. It was him versus me, so if he won, then I had to kiss him, but if I won, then he had to kiss me. It may have been the Malibu and Pinapple juice, but I thought this was a fair wager. We played, he won, we kissed. Pretty sneaky Jed. So there it is, our first date, our first kiss, and the rest is history.